The December issue of HABIBI LIFE magazine is available for download! In it, we’ve curated a list of gifts that we think beautifully suit a wide range of interests and activities. If you’re not interested in downloading the issue just to get your hands on the gift guide, no worries! You can simply click the link below and peruse the guide all on its own at your convenience.
The end of the year may often conjure feelings of panic about how much time is left, and how much we still haven’t done despite our best laid hopes and dreams. From both a personal and a professional standpoint, it can be tough to take a look at how much you have, or haven’t done in the last 11 months.
The typical remedy for this feeling is to ‘self soothe’ with the proverbial list of New Year’s resolutions. But even as we make that wish list, we know in our heart of hearts that there’s little chance that we’ll make the time or an actual plan to cross those things off that list. Millions of people perpetuate this cycle of paralysis and indecision year after year. If you’re one of the people who’s interested in breaking that cycle, keep reading.
RESOLUTION vs GOALS
The reason most resolutions don’t work is because they are often confused with goals. Resolutions are wishes… typically listed to make us feel like we’re doing something good for ourselves. Goals are wishes that come with a plan… and most importantly, a timeline. In order for a goal to be viable, it has to be realistic and relevant to who we are and what we wish to accomplish.
The first thing a goal has to be is specific. Goals also differ from resolutions in this way. Resolutions tend to be vague, and full of passive phrases like ‘try’ and ‘do what I can.’ Goals should also align with your passions. On the most basic level, you have to believe that you are worthy of setting and going after your goals (because of course you are). If you lack the desire to take the steps to achieve a certain result, then you are less likely to achieve that goal. Your goals should reflect what you want, and realistically align with what you’re willing to do to get it.
The journey to reach your goal should be segmented into measurable milestones. This helps you keep track of your progress, and can also motivate you to keep going.
Your goal should be realistic and attainable. So if your goal is to grow wings and fly to the moon… well, we love that dream for you.
Your goal should be time-bound. And the time should be relative to the goal. Setting a long timeline for a simple goal is just as imbalanced as setting a short timeline for a complicated goal. Set your deadlines in realistic accordance to your goal, and you’ll be more likely to achieve them.
We outline 10 major steps on how to set and achieve your goals in the season 1 finale (Episode 12) of the HABIBI LIFE Podcast. You can can find it (and a full transcript if you were so inclined to take notes), on the home page of this site, or wherever you get your podcasts.
Here’s to a prosperous and productive future in 2023… and beyond!
Understanding boundaries means opening to the idea that boundaries don’t just protect us from others… it sometimes protects others from us. Taking a dispassionate look at boundaries, including how to establish and enforce them, can help each of us grow into our highest and healthiest potential.
Check out episode 10 from the podcast, and find out if some… or maybe all of it… applies in some way.
Here’s to a happy and HEALTHY Holiday Season… with beauty and boundaries to boot!
We have officially entered the Holiday Season. With Halloween out of the way, millions of inboxes are already being flooded with ‘early’ Black Friday deals to shore up those Christmas lists. Everyone is out to get your attention (and get your money) before you have the chance to gather your wits and step away from the madness.
It’s normal to feel like you’re being pulled in more directions than you’d like, and it’s easy to get overwhelmed by it all and just want to run away.
Tune into Episode 9: Surviving The Holidays on our podcast as we break down the three likely categories that describe any (or all) of us at any given time during this season. And in the meantime, try these actionable tips to help make things a bit more bearable.
MAKE A LIST: Lists aren’t just for groceries and household chores. They’re also a great way to lay out exactly what you’d like to accomplish – and what you’d like to avoid – over the course of the season. Post it somewhere where you can see it everyday as a reminder of how to navigate this time of year with less angst and more authentic joy. Your list doesn’t have to be complicated… it just has to make sense to you. If you’re more receptive to visuals, consider creating a vision board with sights and textures to help you stay on track.
OUTLINE PRACTICAL OBLIGATIONS: Where do you have to be this season? Some things are unavoidable (there’s probably no way you’re going to be able to get out of certain visits or appearances). Take a look at your obligations and set them up in a way that is most beneficial to you (not those who have expectations of you) and your well-being. That might mean timing your visits to preserve and protect your peace of mind, or stacking them on days when you can knock out several at a time.
SET BOUNDARIES: Learn the art of saying “I’m not available” without adding an explanation. Everyone is not entitled to your time or efforts, especially when their requirements run counter to your health and well-being. In lieu of time, consider recommending (paid or unpaid) help from other sources.
CARVE OUT TIME FOR YOURSELF EACH DAY: It doesn’t have to be hours of alone time to make a difference. Making time and space for yourself to get grounded and centered can make the difference between an effortless day, and one loaded with unnecessary stress. Take a walk, take a bath, meditate, turn off your phone, read a book, take yourself to a movie… the possibilities are endless. While this practice won’t eliminate stress entirely, it may help you gain perspective on any given problem, and help you sold the issue instead of becoming overwhelmed it.
Small steps can make a big difference in how your approach this season, and help you thrive in spite of the trappings that come with it.
HABIBI LIFE is joining the world of podcasts, to help you truly reach your highest, healthiest potential. We endeavor to share information, inspiration and actionable advice to help you truly reach your highest and healthiest potential.
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July is Minority Mental Health Awareness month. Although mental health is a concern across the nationality/ethnicity spectrum… it’s important to acknowledge the intersection of mental health awareness among traditionally minority populations.
In this month’s issue of HABIBI LIFE Magazine, we talk to Clinical Therapist Jackie Benavente about the importance of mental health practices among minority communities. She also highlights actionable tips, and resources to help those in need access vital mental health and wellness services. We hope you download the issue to learn from her, and learn new ways to help you feel your very best from the inside out.
It’s always a good idea to eat fruits and vegetables that are abundant in their natural season. You get the highest nutrient load this way, and the practice keeps you in harmony with nature’s order. Summer is one of the most delicious and abundant seasons of the year, so dive in and experience all of the textures and flavors!
A full rundown of seasonal produce is outlined in the June issue of HABIBI LIFE, along with information and ideas to help you look and feel your very best from the inside out! In the meantime, enjoy a page from the back of the issue, and try your hand at a Dragonfruit Smoothie:
We are fully immersed in the Spring Community Cleanse, eating foods that are at their peak nutritional offering this season! Our process involves sharing specific recipes that coincide with the season for each cleanse. If you haven’t had the opportunity to participate, don’t worry! We’ll do it all over again next season.
In the meantime, it’s a great idea to find out what is available seasonally and locally in your region. Take a look at the April issue of HABIBI LIFE magazine for a full rundown! You can also try your hand at this delicious smoothie recipe featuring rhubarb, the first official fruit of spring!
A quick scroll through Instagram will give you a visual narrative of what many people consider self care: a dip in pristine waters off the coast of some exotic beach, a trip to the local day spa for a massage and an overpriced latte, or lighting a special candle beside a tub of perfumed water filled with petals (possibly fruit) and a glass of wine. What the social media feed will not tell you is the truth; the occasional treat for yourself is not self care. It’s a treat; a distraction from the everyday pressures of work, family and regular demands of life. And while that itself is a lovely notion, it does nothing to encourage the regular, almost ritualistic care of self.
Self-care is not a new concept. Women all over the world take self care as seriously as they do their obligations as mothers, daughters, sisters, aunts, wives and the like. But in the United States, where women are expected to do it all to have it all, the concept of self-care typically takes a back seat. Women are typically encouraged to first take care of everyone and everything around them, and think of her own needs once everyone else’s have been satisfied. So how does one indulge in actual self-care? How does a person go from running through tasks, jumping hurdles, making deals, kicking ass and taking names… to actually taking care of oneself? How do you go from 100 to zero, only to rev back up and do it all again tomorrow?
You take it one breath, one choice, one step at a time.
MORNING: ADD AN EXTRA 15 MINUTES
If your morning consists of slapping the snooze button multiple times, eventually falling out of bed and rushing through dressing, coffee and out the door… it’s no wonder self care is the furthest thing from your mind. Add 15 minutes to your morning. That might mean getting up 15 minutes earlier, and taking those minutes just for you. 15 minutes of meditation (there are fantastic apps like HeadSpace to help you breathe and relax) can make the difference between blowing a gasket over a small incident and making the choice to let it go. Remember that everyone has the same 24 hours in a day. We make the time for what’s important to us. If you’re interested in self-care, make the time for it.
MIDDAY: WALK AWAY
Barring a life-threatening situation, pick a time in the middle of your day to walk away. Push away from your desk, set the laptop aside, put the baby somewhere safe, hang up the phone, excuse yourself from a meeting, and walk away. Stand up. Stretch. Step outside. Take deep breaths. Do something to bring your mind and your body back to neutral. A few minutes set aside to do nothing more than take care of your body and your breath is a great way to reset.
EARLY EVENING: WIND DOWN
This part of the day can get tricky, because it’s typically when many people start the Second Shift. That means taking care of partners, parents, children or friends. Those without familial obligations may take this time to bring work home, or get to work on a secondary entrepreneurial passion. There is a space between a daily job and the Second Shift that often goes ignored. Sometimes that space can take place on the commute home. Most people spend this time on the phone, complaining about the day so far, or stressing about the evening to come. Believe it or not, even something as simple as listening to an audio book can help get you out of your head.
LATE EVENING: BEFORE BED RITUAL
Take your time. It’s easy to just fall face first into the bed and declare the day done. Instead, light a candle while you get ready for bed. Take the time to plot out the next day. Make a ritual out of the nightly habit of washing your face and brushing your teeth. Take the time to enjoy your skin care as you get ready for bed. Make your sleep space neat and attractive. Carve out a few minutes for more meditation, or even some light reading. Set up your night so that when you fall asleep it’s in a state of peace versus defeat (exhaustion).
The secret to self-care is in the little details; the spaces that we take for granted between one task and the next. Eventually, self-care becomes second nature versus a rare Instagram-worthy event. Before you know it, those few minutes that you’ve set aside for your health and wellbeing add up to better stress management, a sunnier outlook, and an opportunity to find the joy in every moment.